I too don't really know what you are looking to get from this forum
aside from a vent.
Can't imagine why on earth you would allow him back in after 9months of
being gone....
I do feel sorry for those children of yours...they are without a doubt suffering as a result of his drinking and selfish behavour.
I must say that I have a problem with the whole Habit of Humanity thing.
My son and his Dad have been "donating" the last 5 summers to this
charity building homes for the very needy...I really hate the thought that
some of their hard work was to benefit a drunk who left his family for 9
months....very disgusting to me.........