Jessica, You have made some steps in recovery in the fact of admitting different things that you had not realized before. Such as your need to control G, such as your seeing what you want to see and not what is, and many more things.
The hard part in that is that while you admit things and you see things - you don't seem to be able to move on those facts. In my bringing this to your attention, I just really feel that you need to find a new counselor. I truly don't believe that the one you have been seeing has been able to help you take the next level of steps.
Now, I'm not saying that I know what those steps are or that they even mean kicking G to the curb. I just feel that your recovery has stalled in some senses and I'm thinking that a new counselor may be able to help you more than the one you are currently seeing.
Just my thoughts - I hope you'll think about it.