Hi Florida...so glad you are here.
My AH has never quit, so I do not have experience with relapse however I do know that what ASpouse says is true.
I think you DO know what you need to do, and have begun to do it........getting back into your own recovery. That is a way for you to get your bearings. Posting here is so helpful for me. Alanon and open AA meetings. Prayer. Have your read "Under the Influence" and/or "Getting Them Sober" ? Those books deal with so much.....and might be very helpful for you.
You sound as if you understand "the basics" about life with an alcoholic.
Glad you found us. Stick around and post (often!). Lots of wonderful people with loads of experience.