Originally posted by Music
Noone can do it for them. I would tell Aaron that I can't be with him unless and/or until he sobers up and straightens out.
Being "selfless" is not thinking less of myself. It's thinking of myself "less." This means that what I want to happen isn't always what needs to happen.
Couldn't have said it any better. How can he expect anyone to help him when he isn't helping himself? In my opinion, you are becoming just a crutch to him. The more and more that you keep up this behavior it will be expected of you to do his homework, comfort him, make his bed. He is not a baby. He needs to learn.