I had to leave my old "pack" behind b/c they continued to drink and use and I couldn't do it. I found as my sobriety lengthened we really had nothing in common except some experiences normally involving alcohol and pot. They thought I was being "uppity" by not drinking and smoking w/ them. Then when I went to uni, they got real outta sorts with it. They felt I was trying to be "better than them". I think it was their way of blaming me that they were still where they were at when we were in our early 20's and I was not.
A sort of reverse justification. It is sad. I eventually learned to say sorry but I am not like them and I moved on. It is sad b/c we spent all of our teen years in inseparable commraderie... unfortunately it was one based on using and partying, not on real friendship.
Levi