So, I'm curious, are you going to have this conversation with him tonight and be baited to "dance the dance" once again until the next incident? or are you going to set your boundaries and tell him that the time for discussion is over and the relationship is over?
I bet you have the conversation with you and get sucked in again! We've all been there, done that .... me personally 13 years worth of "conversations", sobbing, crying, pleading, begging (him not me!). It was gutwrenching to listen to, so I stayed! ......