I suspect both is getting worse. I'm off to another AA meeting tonight. X boss called me - told me that he knows x has been breaking into his house - has had jewelry, percasets, booze, and change missing. Set up a video camera and saw him. Police were called, but doubt they will pin it on him as video was grainy. Anyhoo, I guess that's that - only thing to do is heal my self and move on. I cannot deny what he is and probably always has been. A con, thief, liar, user, alcoholic. I think his very bad behaviour goes beyond the addiction as boss said that the time he suspected him of breaking in - x was working and as far as he knows, wasn't drinking. I'm sad - but not for "losing" him - but for finally seeing without a doubt that I was played - that does hurt. Live and learn