W used to do similar things to me all the time. The guilt trip was the same- but sor a different reason. he clasimed he WANTED me to go out and have a good time- but he would get pissed because I always said he and I couldn't go out. Cause he likes to drink and never wants to leave the bar, and I don't like him when he;s like that- but he never could see it that way. So when I'd go out (really, like 5 times in 5 years) he'd not only give the guilt trip about how we can never go out and have a good time cause I make a big deal over nothing, but then he'd call me like 12 times just to see if I was having fun. Just know that whatever you'd decide- whether you went or not- would still be the wrong answer to him. You can't win against an alcoholic/addict because they change the rules to suit them.