Clancy?? Where are you going with that? What Sunshine has described is classic abusive behaviour - punish the partner for even daring to mention to go out, so they will never go out, never mix with other people, never realise just how wrong it is. Then be isolated and totally within their control. I see this behaviour as a branch on the tree of distorted thinking - drinking is merely another branch.
Sunshine - I know how painful this is, but I also know that it is necessary. The memories and realisations you are having now are paving the way for a future where you will never have to endure this again. You are tuning your BSmeter and that is a wonderful thing.