Meeeep!! What's wrong with not wanting to be tied down? I never want to be tied down, whatever I do I want to do it from free will - and that includes a night in wearing slippers!
Your hubby sounds a royal pain in the butt!! How the hell does he expect to FORCE a good relationship? Right now D is doing his thing playing some funny puzzle game upstairs - his thing, tomorrow night I'll go swimming with my mate - my thing, I've been doing a college course - my thing, he plays PS2 star wars with my mate's partner - his thing, on Wednesday I'm spending the day with my mate - my thing (and he has to go to work'cos he has less leave, and her partner is looking after the four dogs!! (but we're meanies)).
It isn't you - it's him, his idea of romance seems to require a roll call!!