Very wise advice up there I think. It's different for everyone. What scares me the most about the possibility of AH getting sober during our separation (if we don't go straight to divorce which is very much a possibility) is that he could be sober for 10 years or more and relapse and then where would I be? The choices regarding this matter however are different for each of us and should be made based on "what is" and not just the "wish." For me, I think it would be difficult commiting myself to a sober AH just b/c of my own fear of what the future may hold. That is not the right attitude to take on when supposedly planning an entire life with someone IMO. I really am taking this one day at a time b/c as we all know, a lot can happen in the mere course of one week around here.
My AH is NOT sober now and may never be for all I know.