Jojo,
I agree with you. My AH is also in recovery. We're separated while we work individually on our own recovery programs.....he's active now in AA and has a sponsor. I'm seeing a therapist, have Al-Anon and these terrific people who have offered me support, encouragement and their experiences without judging me.
I don't know where this journey will lead AH and I, but for now, I have tempered my needy desire to have all the answers right now. I'm really working on that.
It sounds like you have a very good foundation. It sounds like you're doing a very good job of detatching wit love.
Take care, Jojo. My thoughts and prayers are with you,
Sarah