I am happy that you posted your story. It has helped me by having the opportunity to read everyone's replies. I already knew that when an A was under the influence, it was the alcohol talking. And I realized that in the day or two following an event resulting of that drinking, it was still the alcohol talking as it warranted my ah's defensiveness of what he had done. However, I have always wondered about how to distinguish the times of the alcohol talking and of ah talking. I guess I believed that when ah was not drinking - it was him talking. After reading the replies, I'm wondering now if it's just the alcoholic in him still talking. Ah was a binger and doesn't always drink alot, so I've found myself quite confused at times on the alcholism aspect of it as far as telling the difference when he's not drinking.
I'm looking forward to reading more of the replies.
Hopefully sweetgrace, we both will learn some valuable things from this thread.