If you stay with him, you are going down into financial ruin- all for a man who has cheated and lied and done nothing but negative things in your life. If you stay , you can vent all you want but at this point you will be bringing it on yourself. I know it is terrifing to go out on your own- but the alternative is this repetive downward spiral of despair. And you will be enabling him to continue to drink because you will now have to support him. I would have brought him the beer, dumped it on his head, packed and been long gone. I am sorry to be so blunt but this is not a situuation that is going to go away or get better. dax