I'm sorry this happened TG, but I guess you knew it would eventually. I too do not think that he's learned from this and if you take him to live with you in the new city, it will more than likely turn into an even bigger nightmare for you. Your new job was a means for YOU to earn more income to get away from him if/when the time came. It was not meant to support an unemployed husband or one that is "promising" recovery. Now is the time IMO. Hugs to you.