Hi Joe,
congrats for hanging in there, I know its tough.
I did a few things to help get me through detox. Lots of vitamins, heaps of water and plenty of rest. I was very weak and needed to rest constantly. It was scary, then frustrating, but the more I tried to fight it the worse it got. If you spent a long time drinking, its going to take a while for your body to adjust to going without alcohol.
I shook when I first went to meetings and so did just about everyone else I've met. I know it can be embarassing, but don't worry about being judged because its normal at the start. I'm glad that you got yourself to a meeting.
Take it easy.
Amy