Kahlia,
Thanks for those words. Her relative and I have been keeping contact and she's given us conflicting stories as to her rent money. She's not asking either of us for money. It's just in separate conversations that we had with her, she was very upset and irritable, and when asked why....she gave the reason being her rent money. But the reasons she gave to the both of us were different.
I love this woman dearly. But I'm no fool and since my experience I've received advice from people who once smoked, then quit to avoid being controlled by it and it's been years since they've touched the stuff, are doing EXTREMELY well in life, and have no intentions of doing it again. I will continue to be there for her....but not when it comes to money matters. Even now I call her often just to check up on her and will continue to do so til she tells me outright "leave me alone". If that ever happens. And I'm preparing for it.