Originally Posted by lilqhgal
But the fact remains that I love him and I want it to work.
If by wanting it to work, you mean he gets sober, you have no control over that.
On the other hand, are you willing to make it work whether he gets sober or not? These are really the only choices you can make. Him getting sober is a choice only he can make. I realize that this is not what you want to hear, and not what I wanted to hear six months ago, either.
Maybe it would be a good idea to have no contact for a while, just so you can think without all the pressure. Counseling helped me a lot during that really stressful time of separating. Alanon has also helped many on this board.
Try to be gentle with yourself and don't let anyone coerce you into any snap decisions.
L