Are you currently still with your alcoholic spouse (or whoever the A is in your life)?
Yes!! And very glad to be - I would marry him just as fast as I did for all the same reasons. One of those reasons was that he was fighting back - it hasn't been an easy battle but he also hasn't given in.
Are they still drinking or recovering and how long sober?
It's been 3 1/2 months since he last drank but since August lapses have been isolated and he hasn't regularly drank. I think his recovery started long before he managed to actually stop drinking - before then he had to begin to want to live and for me that's the biggy.
Do you feel you are still actively codependant?
Nope - I don't think I was either. There were things I needed to learn and plenty I've benefitted from learning but I don't believe I was sick. I respect people feel it describes something they are ill with but it isn't recognised as a diagnosis and I believe what I felt was fairly rational responses from the begining - they got more informed but I think they were always fairly rational.