Sounds like a dry drunk to me. I know people who have been sober for years and attend meetings but like your husband isn't working the steps and doesn't have a sponsor. They are sober but their thoughts are just as crazy as before because they are doing nothing to address the causes of why they drank.
It is still early for your husband though. Hopefully he will watch others with similar sobriety dates who ARE working a program and notice the ways in which they are growing and decide that he wants that too.
In the meantime, have you tried Al-Anon for YOU?
Good luck!
Kellye