Hi HG,
The real problem is that he has moved in with a woman he met in the treatment program. They have been involved since the third week of their treatment program (mid-Nov.), although I knew nothing about it until three weeks ago. It seems like he just wants to forget his family and start over. The kids and I are just responsibilities he cannot handle. He continues to lie to me, neglect the kids, and has also stopped talking to his parents and brother. This is from a person who was completely devoted to his family for most of out 16 year marriage.
As I said earlier, he seems to have changed completely. I am simply trying to make sense of this and am putting plans into place to move on.