Ann has really pointed me to reading many things from Ralph Marston. Thanks Ann.
I like this one.
SELF-PITY
You're feeling sorry for yourself. Why is that? What will it get you? Mainly what it will do is aggravate problems you already have, and deepen the despair you're already feeling.
But go ahead and feel sorry for a moment. Experience the feeling of being a victim. Take the feeling and hold it in your hand. Close your fingers around it. Grip it tightly. Then open your hand and look at it.
You'll realize that it is not you. Your Self-Pity is something you've chosen to experience. You can just as surely choose not to experience it. You can just as easily choose to let it go. Let that experience of feeling sorry for yourself drop away from you. It's a useless artifact of your past. So abandon it. Put the energy it was previously consuming toward more productive purposes. Use it to move yourself toward where you desire to be.
Either you can chose to keep reminding yourself of what's bad about your life, or you can choose to push yourself to those things that can be good and positive and enjoyable and truly fulfilling. No matter how bad things have become Self-Pity has nothing to offer. No matter how things are, your best choice in any moment is to steadily make them better.
RALPH MARSTON.
I happen to agree with this writing as well. Self-Pity has nothing to offer. Just my honest opinion.
Hopefloats