Hi Mary
This one is hard for me too... For me it actually believing step one, Im powerless over them... Knowing this is a disease and understanding that I dont have to get caught up in the Chaos.
Detaching with Love just allows them to make their choices and live their lives.... and allows me to step aside when Chaos begins. I dont engage in the fight, I dont listen to the lies (quacking) and most of all I focus on myself, what I can do for myself today.
Are you going to Ala-non or some type of support??? It really helps