No need to blush, I've been guilty of that many many many many times myself! I understand your thought process and completely understand what you are saying and trying to get across to everyone.
You know TG, my best friend married a jerk about 20 years ago. For months before her wedding she said she didn't want to do it. I begged her not to (he was a jerk too), but she went ahead and did it anyway. She is divorced now and remarried (not sure how happy she is) her ex was an alcoholic/addict ....... this guy is also an alcoholic I think.
She always told me she should have followed her instinct those many years ago .....