Guy, you are no fool ...... you are hurt and men and women view this entire topic on two entirely different levels.
I think as you progress through your recovery, the answer to these types of questions, at least in your mind, will become clearer.
You are seeing the love you hold for your wife as physical things, things you can see, things that cause your memories. As you recover, the memories will become faded and the love you share/had with your wife will take on an entirely different meaning.
It's a tough question to answer and it does require a lot of thought and soul searching.