taking the right steps
I may not be qualified to respond since this if my first time online. I'm on the other side of things I'm the heavy drinker constantly making promises to slow down or only get drunk once a week in order to move on to another topic. Always with no intentions of doing so. I don't get nasty as far as I know I usually wait for him to go out and then start drinking so by the time he gets home it's to late. We've been playing this dance for the last 8 years or so. Some years better than others but it always comes back to the same topic.
Well 2 nights ago I made sure I drank and went to bed before he got home I guess that was the plan because I really don't remember. BUT I do remember getting kicked out of bed for breaking yet another promise I never intended on keeping.
We talked the next day and he was crying I've never seen him cry in the 10yrs we've been together. But the thought of loosing him and being the one to make him cry ( he hardly every drinks) over alochol broke my heart. So hear I am feeling good today with lots of energy 2 days w/o a drink.
Hopefully I didn't make this to much about me and was helpful with my story so far. Just take care of your self and the rest will take it's course (including your husband) We need our downs inorder to enjoy our ups. Good luck Stay strong I'm trying.