Rose,
Hi, I'm new here, and don't know your whole story.... but your conversation with your husband sounds SOOOOOO similar to events in my home last week. Especially the sentence " I said that I love you and I know you love me, but we are both not happy and I don't see that changing if we stay together." Boy! Are we living in parallel universes or what!
We go through so much inner turmoil, going in circles trying to deal with the impossible situation of living with alcohol. I used to envision myself as a squirrel running back & forth on the road, trying to avoid getting run over, but not sure which way to turn.
Until one day the truth just bubbles up from deep down inside. And, when the truth finally spoken, an amazing calm comes over the whole situation.
My best to you... keeping seeking the truth and you'll know which path to take from here.
Hugs,
EyesOpen