How are you doing? I hope you are well. No, it is not wrong to want to live life on your terms.Just because a loved one decides they want to jump out of a plane without a parachute does not mean you have to go with them. Not what you signed up for. Tell him- one year sober and you will consider- no promises, at all. I have 40+ years of experience with alcohol abusers. I have forgiven myself,mostly. Do what is good for you, that is what is right,what I know to be true.