Originally Posted by
Anna 
I can promise you that shaming an alcoholic is not going to make him stop drinking. If anything, it will make him drink more.
Lots of alcoholics drink to escape negative emotions so causing more pain to the alcoholic is probably going to promote more drinking.
Also many many people have gone before you in similar situations with alcoholic spouses. Of course the details are different but the trends of alcoholism are the same. It is worth looking into what worked and what hasn't worked for others.