Originally Posted by
Zewrty5309 
I bought the Melody Beatie book at a used book store and read some. But I'll be honest, I still think shaming my husband is what will finally get through to him. I don't like the idea that I'm as sick as him. I put my children first every day and function in the real World.
No it isn't an appealing idea. I doubt that any of us liked this view of the matter; however, with time, many of us found truth in this. I sure did and my qualifier was a meth addict.
As understandable as your anger is with your husband, acting on it won't help anyone. Of course it will feel good in the moment. I too wanted to inflict pain on the guy that had caused me so much pain. It is human; it just isn't effective at stopping an alcoholic from drinking.
Keep trying to learn both about addicts and codependents. Every bit of understanding you acquire makes you more effective in dealing with this terrible situation.