Oynet-
Im so sorry for the pain you are in- yet I commend your strength in honoring your boundaries by refusing to continue to fund his disease. I’ve been through a similar experience and also learned that when I put up boundaries and took care of me , the alcoholic I was with backed away from the relationship. As painful as that was, it was valuable information- the bullet dodged so to speak. A therapist gave me a couple of quotes that I found helpful when my pain began to make me question my decisions or even my value in light of how I was treated- maybe they’ll resonate with you…
”alcoholics in active addiction find resources, not relationships”
” when you begin to assert boundaries , you will find out who was in your life because you didn’t have boundaries”
You made the strongest choice for yourself and your children by cutting off his access to your financial resources. Sending you lots of love and strength to get past the pain to the much better things waiting for you on the other side of it.