You know, you sound really clear about all this and that is such a plus for you.
It's hard though, you no doubt had plans and discussions about your future etc and now all of that has just gone away, with the alcohol. It can be difficult to deal with the expectation of what you thought you were going to be together and the reality of what is now and going forward.
But again, looking at it realistically is more than half the battle.
Now is a really good time to think about what you want to do, but small steps perhaps, it will take time to heal this.
Just our of curiosity, how can he afford a lawyer if he has no money?