Originally Posted by
LucyIntheGarden 
The alcoholic husband in Chris's life threatened to shoot her Christmas Day. And he is currently "very cruel" when communicating with her.
Whatever helpful treatments might be available to an alcoholic, a woman who has been threatened by her alcoholic husband with a loaded gun is not the person to try to guide him toward any of those available treatments.
Every situation is different. But in your story, Chris, the risk of an explosive incident is very high. So please let go and stay away from him.
ALL OF THIS!!!
The power of F&F forum is that sharing here may be the first step in us learning and giving ourselves permission to STOP the insanity of trying to "help" or "support" the A.
I have always appreciated the "Let Go or Be Dragged" reminder...simple and succinct and sadly, oh so true.
ChrisHartLuck - hope you are safe and finding some peace of mind...
Peace,
B.