LucyintheGarden, totally agree and I am on it! I had been seeing a psychiatrist, and I added some other therapy via Talkspace, and I joined Al Anon. However, I think I need someone who has specific experience with alcoholics/substance abuse, so I am going to research finding a new psychiatrist. And on the guns point, the really sad part is that seems to be one of the things that my AH is most angry about - letting the police take his firearms and having an ERPO (extreme risk protection order) filed against him. His hearing to determine if the firearm ban becomes permanent is this week, fingers crossed that it does! But again really sad that he seems to care more about his stupid guns than what he did to me.