He has been "pushed" into rehab three times, and each time we could see he wasn't really taking it seriously. Once he was out, he would soon start drinking. Every time he has hit bottom, lost jobs, etc., we came to his rescue. He has never had to completely figure his situation out on his own, so we know we are largely to blame. Last year he sobered up on his own, started going to AA meetings, looking for a job, had about 6-8 really good months, and his old job hired him back. During that time, we encourage him to get established with a physician that could help him get started on meds for his anxiety and depression. He never did that, and subsequently became anxious and depressed, and started drinking again. I feel like he has to want to get better and seek to do it on his own. Otherwise, this will never end. We are getting older and cant keep doing this. We just need the strength to step back.