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Hi, I'm new here. My mother enabled my brother to use drugs his entire life. She was terrified of the possibility of him becoming homeless, or not having a car, or not having a phone, or being hungry, or sick. So she paid everything for him; rent, bought cars, car insurance, utilities, health insurance, car insurance, bought his clothes, gave him money for gas, groceries, cigarettes, lawyers. You name it - she paid for it. My brother has worked off and on his whole life. But the money he earned was HIS money, to be spent on whatever HE wanted, which was never any of the things my mom was already paying for.

My mother passed away 2 weeks ago from cancer. I was her primary caregiver. My brother only called when she was sick to ask for gas money, or grocery money, or to ask if she was going to be able to pay his rent.

My mother left her home and auto myself and my brother. (No other siblings). I bought out his share of the auto before she died, so that he would have cash to operate on while she was actively dying. Six weeks ago, he received $7 K from me, and now he is breathing down my neck needing "the rest" of his inheritance. He can't pay his rent which is due tomorrow.

I should say, my brother is almost 62 years old. He has never had a bank account. He is currently not working, just doing small jobs.

I know that since my mother is gone, he will now try to manipulate me into taking her place. I am a married, retired grandmother, with absolutely no interest in having a relationship with a brother, who never called me or reached out to me when my mother was living. Now, he suddenly wants to talk every day.

I dread the storm that I know is coming. He has never been told NO, and unfortunately, he's about to hear it for the first time.

Asking for advice, insight, personal stories if you have been through this? Thanks.