Partner in rehab
Hi new here but need some advice I’m struggling. Me and my partner have been together for about for 4 years and have a small child together. He has been an Alcoholic for over 10 years. He was engaging with addiction services and trying to cut down however when he drank his behaviour wasn’t so nice and I had to tell him to leave for the sake of myself and child. His mother then decided to send him to a rehab facility 2 days after we separated (even though I’d been asking his family for help for years, only when I put him out they actually have helped him) He contacted me the day before he went In as he was scared and told me he will always love me and needs to do this which I completely understand and want him to be the best he can be. After a couple of days he called me but ended in argument as he blamed me for him being there and it was all my fault but I expected this as he was going through detox. He then blocked me and didn’t contact for another couple of days which is confusing for me as I love him so much. One day he loves me then next he starts an argument because I want to know if he loves me and coming home to us after he leaves rehab. He says I’m toxic and to blame and can’t see it was his actions that cause me to put him out. He’s excepted gifts I’ve send over and still kind of keeping in touch occasionally saying he’s love me and misses me but telling me he is not making any rash decisions at the moment. But I don’t know where I stand I’m heartbroken and cry all the time Christmas and now new year alone is very hard, I know I’m being selfish but I’m willing to support him in anyway. He also is telling me he doesn’t want any visitors as will upset him saying goodbye but his son and I would just love a cuddle and show our support ,it’s been 3 weeks now since we have seen him and we miss him so much. Should I just give him the space to get better alone and pray he comes back to me or just realise he doesn’t want to be with me anymore and try to move on with my life. Very confused and hurting so bad.