Originally Posted by
Hilde01 
Thank you for all your replies. It is very helpful and I am very appreciative of them. May I know based on your experiences if it is normal for an addict to come back after breaking up with you and try to fix the relationship? When he is not on substance he is so sweet and caring. I don't want to lose him but I have to respect his wishes and leave him alone. I am still in disbelief how he could be head over heels in love with me until afternoon and change in the evening. I don't understand it all I know is that he truly loved me.
You describe an active addict doing what active addicts do. Lying. Protecting the addiction. You have no idea what kind of person this guy is when he is not using. Neither does he. What you love is your idea of what he might be like if he became sober. Not reality. Get a copy of the book "codependent no more" and spend some time reading it. Good luck to you.