No he was not sadly. I have been trying to have him come when I am not home but he seems to come when he feels like it. So awkward and uncomfortable- he hasn’t even told me about living with another woman and obviously I don’t want to ask. But I feel like I have all the unanswered questions. But I know any conversation won’t go well and he will say it’s me - that I am the problem and alway playing victim. All I wanted was for him to be a supportive husband and father. Get off the couch and work and provide for his family. The only reason he stopped working was the coke was giving him headaches and high blood pressure / I just didn’t have much sympathy for him. I was angry and so so resentful. Guarantee he is vilifying me to this new woman about how horrible a wife i was .