When I was drinking E V E R Y T H I N G seemed major. Especially if it involved any kind of interaction with people, and I felt the same way about some women.
Alcohol lowers (obliterates) the natural emotional boundaries between two people. It lowers the spiritual energy of inner self protection and for me it made it seem like I couldn't tell where I stopped and others began. I also thought everything was about me.
That text seemed completely benign to me...but I do think that's one reason why alcoholics isolate so much. Every interaction comes with this navel-gazing mind-spinning period of confusion and pain afterwards.
The solution is stop drinking. Give it a few months sober and really dig into other things like therapy, AA meetings, or reading self-help books. There's a lot of help, but the only way to understand and get healthy boundaries is to work at it.