Yikes.
I didn't think I had a fear of abandonment...well maybe a little. Now after JT's post ... I had always had to be the dumper.... and this would definitely explain my feeling of always having "one foot out the door" Beeecause, I'd be dammed if I was going to be dumped. Sooooo, leading to me think if I ever really totally committed myself to any relationship????????????? So, all the fights where I felt threatened that "it was over" were what??? Why do we feel that way? Because we fear we were going to be abandon? And not the Abandoner? And if I were to be really honest with myself, I've really never spent much time without a partner since I started dating. Because when I ended one relationship, there was always a back up. Hmmm...
Your right Steph, between here and Dopp, my brain is whirling. An interesting evening for me.