Sorry she wrote you that horrible email Oglsby.
You know one other thing that might help is thinking of her as being in her own world, because basically she is. Her world, her perceptions are not yours and never will be.
So when you think of her, you can think - Well I guess in <her name> world, that all sounds reasonable. In <her name> world, I hope she figures this out.
It's just kind of another way to separate yourself and detach - she isn't in the same world as you are, she is in one of her own making (well we all are to some degree, just that hers is very skewed).