Dear Oglsby
I would swear that you and I are from the same family and were separated at birth. The only difference is, I am the oldest child in my family. I have been "no contact" with both my younger sisters for 7 years.
The middle child in my family is the ringleader. I refer to her as the Toxic Matriarch. Our parents have been dead for many years. The younger sister is toxic in her own right, but does whatever the matriarch says.
Within the past year, the matriarch reached out to my cousin across country and tried to enlist her help to rope me back into the fold. I had a candid conversation with the cousin where I told her everything the matriarch had done to me. At one point, I almost got a restraining order against her, she was so crazy. The cousin saw the light after I told her everything.
I can assure you that my life is better with those two and their spouses. I do not regret going no contact with them.