Originally Posted by
velma929 
I don't know how divorce laws work where you married. Here in the US though, one party can't stop a divorce. It doeesn't work that way. In fact, in most states, one doesn't even need to show cause for a divorce. You have extra steps to go through in adequately notifying your spouse.
I’ve spoken with an attorney in Japan, and they said that even though we were married in America, because he lives in Japan, that we’d have to get divorced in Japan. It’s super easy to get divorced there- you get a paper from city hall, fill it out, sign it, get your spouse to sign it, hand it in and you’re divorced. But he refuses to do that, and we aren’t physically there to do it, and I am super scared to go back to divorce because Japanese law is that the last Japanese national to be in possession of the children is considered the parent to have custody. And who knows what he’d do.