Originally Posted by
Zencat 
Good going with the borders. I guess we all handle life differently. Got to do what works for you and build on it. Stand your ground works too.
Good for you to vent
Your happiness is not dependent on a dunce so there's that.
I tried thinking of how what I said could appear to anyone as not standing my ground. IMO nothing could be more "stand your ground" than standing in your truth and refusing to defend that. I know who I am without any validation. It just is. I left a cult so I am well versed on the power move of knowing that other people think you're the worst kind of person ever and letting them lie in that. l kind of like how that seems non aggressive.