Like it or not, your wife is an adult. Adults don't always make the best decisions. And short of your wife's friends holding her down and forcing the alcohol down her throat, the decision to drink (and get drunk) was hers. A sure way to make the situation between you and her worse is to get her friends involved in something that belongs between the two of you. I'm not defending your wife's decision, but trying to control someone else's drinking, whether they have a problem with alcohol or not, is fruitless and only creates bad blood. Like is so often said here in these forums, your wife obviously isn't the one who has a problem with her drinking, it's you that it's bothering. And it's not the right vs wrong so much as it is finding a way to protect your emotional health (and your daughter's) from her actions without trying to control them. Does that make sense? I know it's hard. Many, many of us have been where you are. Peace to you.