There are so many people in this world. Why settle? Alcohol, sobriety or not - this doesn't sound like a healthy match at all and one that is not satisfying. Just my 2 cents. I hope this didn't sound crass - I struggled for MANY years with a husband that just wasn't a good fit. At all. Sure we had good times, but looking back I should have left long, long ago. I tried and pushed (my codependency) to build a life on sand. The foundation couldn't withstand simple life.