I agree with the others. If this is the path you're being led too, buckle down for a fight. I know that I had to do damage control before it even happened. Feelings, emotions and a long history are involved. I had to compartmentalize my feelings to fix/demand/change my ex and my common sense to get through my divorce. Things obviously got heated with your wife. It sounds like she has been on both sides of the fence as well with your previous drinking. It can get accusatory - and rightfullly so. Neither side of the fence is a fun place to be. I've been there as well. Hopefully you can have a calm weekend.