Originally Posted by
centrd 
I definitely want to make sure I'm not enabling him (is giving him a ride when drunk enabling?), trying to fix him, or becoming co-dependent. How do I love him without letting his problem consume me? Is that even possible? How do I know when too much is really too much? When the tradeoffs aren’t worth the worry and stress? And how do I get myself out of what I got myself into if that becomes necessary?
This is all stuff I remember hearing about and speaking about at Nar-anon meetings in my experience. Additionally, the book “Facing Codependence” by Pia Mellody had a lot of information I still use to this day to answer these kinds of questions for myself (because, at least in my opinion, the answers vary person-to-person and you have to figure out *your* answers and hold true to them).