Originally Posted by
centrd 
I知 not saying Al-anon is wrong because they do it differently, I知 just saying I don稚 quite get it and I知 not sure it痴 going to provide me with what I need. Maybe I just need more time? Or maybe I知 not in the right place? Do you, or anyone else, know where exactly we can go to find the kind of skills I知 looking to learn and develop?
I understand what you are saying, I've only ever been to one Al Anon meeting so I'm certainly no expert. It is nice to know you are not alone, but what else is there?
In that one meeting, a very nice woman came up to me and talked a bit, then the meeting was held and afterward she gave me her phone number. There was also a list of phone numbers.
You can have a sponsor in Al Anon, that can help walk you through the steps, I think that is structure, but it's also about meeting others in somewhat the same boat that you can connect with outside the meetings, maybe that is what's missing?
This forum has tons of information that you will probably find really useful. You might want to post some of your questions in a new thread? Maybe share your situation (if you want to).
I'm glad you found the forum.